The Problems With Being In The Moment

“Be in the moment” - no matter which part of the world we live in, all of us have heard this phrase at some point in our lives. And yet for some reason, we always find our heads anywhere except for in the present.

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Nandita Kochar

“Be in the moment” - no matter which part of the world we live in, all of us have heard this phrase at some point in our lives. If we are sad about leaving our school, we must fully immerse ourselves in that sadness. If we are happy about our kid graduating, we must let the happiness fill us entirely. That’s what is said and expected of us.

And yet for some reason, we always find our heads anywhere except for in the present. There a good number of reasons for this. 

• To go through life as smoothly as possible, some of us have had to grow a thick skin. Our experiences have pushed us to not register all that we feel, it’s a must to let certain things not register. 



• Happiness can be difficult to register sometimes. As humans, we are mostly walking on our toes. To be told that we can lay our feet flat on the ground, even for a few seconds can be hard to believe.



• Our expectations are always at work, telling us how to feel for something that’s taking place externally. These expectations hinder our ability to actually be present in the moment. Instead of “I am feeling ..”, it becomes “I must feel..”



• Finally, our emotions tend to move at a much slower pace as compared to an event. We might feel happy or sad or confused not at that very moment but in the night, while having a glass of wine or watching a television show.